These are the rules for being on Parda. They are short on purpose, because rules nobody reads protect nobody. Everything here is enforced by a person, and the serious items are enforced by permanent removal on the first occurrence.
The four that end an account immediately
- Anyone under 18. Being one, contacting one, or any content involving one. Reported to the police and to the National Cyber Crime Portal without exception.
- Commercial sexual services. Offering, requesting, advertising or arranging paid sex, in any wording, however indirect. See the Anti-Trafficking Policy.
- Blackmail, extortion or threats. Including threatening to tell somebody’s spouse, employer or family.
- Sharing another member’s material. Photographs, messages, screenshots or identity, anywhere, for any reason, ever.
Be who you say you are
- Your photographs must be of you, and recent enough to be honest.
- State your relationship status truthfully. Married, separated, openly non-monogamous, or single. The entire platform depends on this one fact being true, and it is the most common reason people are removed after a report.
- Do not pretend to be a different age, gender or person.
- Your display name is yours to choose. Your identity document must be genuinely yours.
How to behave in a conversation
- No sexual content in a first message. It is the fastest route to being blocked and reported, and it is the single most common complaint we receive.
- No reply is an answer. Do not send a second, third and fourth message asking why.
- A block is final. Contacting somebody through another account after a block ends both accounts.
- Do not demand photographs. Photos are masked by default and released by private key when somebody chooses. Asking on day one signals you have not understood the platform.
- Do not press for a personal number before somebody offers it.
Money never changes hands between members
Not gifts, not loans, not travel costs, not a temporary UPI transfer to be returned tomorrow. Any request for money from another member is either a scam or a breach of these guidelines, and in both cases you should report it and stop replying. Nobody legitimate on this platform will ever ask you for money.
Photographs
- No nudity or sexually explicit imagery in profile photos. This is a dating platform, not an adult content site.
- No photographs containing other identifiable people who have not agreed to be there. This includes children — do not use a family photo.
- No stock images, no celebrities, no images of someone else.
- Never send an identifiable intimate image to another member. We cannot protect you from what you hand somebody voluntarily, and it is the origin of nearly every sextortion case we see.
Respect the discretion of others
Everyone here has something to lose, and you are holding somebody else’s exposure as well as your own.
- Never screenshot a conversation or a profile.
- Never try to identify a member outside the platform — reverse image searches, social media hunting, workplace guessing.
- Never mention another member to anybody, even without a name.
- If you recognise somebody you know in real life, close the profile and say nothing, to them or to anyone.
Meeting
What adults agree between themselves is theirs. What we require is that it is consensual, between adults, and not commercial. Consent can be withdrawn at any moment, including after somebody has said yes, including after you have met, including halfway through an evening. Read the Safety Centre before a first meeting.
What we do not police
We are not going to ask why you are here, judge your marriage, or require you to justify yourself to us. We moderate conduct on the platform, not people’s private lives. Support has never once required somebody to explain themselves before helping them.
Reporting
There is a report control on every profile and in every chat. A person reads every report, usually within 24 hours. Reporting is confidential — the reported member is never told who reported them.
Report anything in the four-item list above immediately, plus: anyone asking for money, anyone refusing a video call while pushing to meet, anyone whose photos do not match a video call, and anything that simply felt wrong.
What happens when we act
- Warning for a first minor breach, with the content removed.
- Suspension for a repeat, or a single serious one.
- Permanent removal, no refund for anything in the four-item list, and a report to the police where the law requires it.
If you think we got it wrong, the grievance process gets you a human review within the statutory timeline.
Helplines
- Cybercrime: 1930 · cybercrime.gov.in
- Emergency: 112 · Women’s helpline: 181
- Mental health (Tele-MANAS): 14416, free, 24 hours